Everyone wants to change for the better. Maybe you want to lose weight, be more assertive, start waking up earlier, or be a better role model for your kids.
It’s human nature. We’re always trying to optimize.
But changing is brutally hard. If it wasn’t hard, there would be no fitness industry, no self help industry. No one would have trouble quitting smoking. That’s clearly not the case.
Change is easy to think about and it’s easy to learn about. Most people have picked up a self help book at some point and most people have made valiant efforts to change themselves for the better.
But how many people actually make those changes stick?
You see, for all the knowledge we have about how to change ourselves, we have very little action.
And action, no matter how small, is what drives behaviour change.
In Steven Pressfield’s brilliantly succinct book, Do the Work, he outlines the process for starting and finishing a creative endeavour. This is one of my favourite lines:
Before we begin, you wanna do research? Uh-unh. I’m putting you on a research diet. You’re allowed to read three books on your subject. No more. No underlining, no highlighting, no thinking or talking about the documents later. Let the ideas percolate. Let the unconscious do its work.
Learning is great. Knowledge is good. But when it comes to getting started, it just gets in your way. There is just too much out there. If you try to learn it all before you start, you’ll never start.
You don’t need one more book.
You don’t need another course.
You don’t need to know “the secret.”
You need to move.
Start small. Start very small and move and move and move. It builds momentum.
Don’t have an end goal because you don’t know enough now to know how this will end. You can’t know exactly what the finished product will look like but you can know what the next step is. You can see at least one foot in front of you so just f*cking move.
Here’s the thing:
You’re gonna fall flat on your face.
More than once.
But it’s better than always researching, never moving, and never living; staying inert, staying passive, making a dying, not a living.
James Clear says it best. Stop learning and start practicing.
And it’s not like acting instead of researching means you stop learning. The awesome thing about action is that you learn in real time. You get real life experience and you learn how all those “theories” actually apply to you, not the author of a book or his clients or your successful friends or anyone else.
It’s not about them.
It’s about you.
Even if you aren’t ready to change yet, just move.
Just move one muscle.
I’ll be cheering you on every second.
Even if you’re depressed; even if you’ve failed fifty times before; even if it’s the most painful thing you’ve ever done, I promise you it’ll help.
What will you do today?