We're very results-oriented people.
For myself, I often look at how I'm doing, physically, financially, in comparison to others socio-economically...
As a coach, I'm constantly looking at my clients: are they reaching their goals, are they doing exercises correctly, are they showing up on time...
These things are all important. There is zero doubt about that.
We Don't See the Forest for The Trees
We become focused more on the task to achieve the result we want than we do on the strengths we already have ourselves or in our community.
We have our heads up our tasks. (haha, get it? get it?!)
In any role where you work with people (and working with yourself counts as working with a person), we cannot force things to get done.
It's a lame old cliché: you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
And it’s true. You sure as hell can't.
Well you sorta can. But it'll drink at about 30% efficiency if it drinks at all.
Recent information from Chris McCombs, PhD, shows us that, in any given organization, about 30% of employees are actually engaged.
Disengagement is an Epidemic
People disengage from their work, their relationships, and sometimes even their lives when they feel incompetent, unappreciated, unheard, irrelevant.
And that's precisely how people feel when a leader is more task oriented than people oriented.
It's way less effort to help people build the confidence to do things themselves than it is to try to force them to do things your way.
For example, as a coach, it makes way more sense for me to acknowledge the good and productive behaviour of my client than to constantly remind them of how far they are from their goal.
It makes way more sense to encourage what they're already doing well than to admonish them for what they aren’t doing the way I want them to.
When all the feedback you get is negative, you feel defeated. It's hard to want to keep going.
But when you feel competent and autonomous and feel like what your doing is important to the future... Then you just want to keep working. Then you're invested. Then it's fun!
And trust me, if you’re a coach, you want your clients to be having fun. The last thing you want is miserable clients!
So get your head out of your task and start being more people oriented. If you can help people feel appreciated, competent, and autonomous, they'll be happier and they'll get way more done as well.