Mad at yourself?

Wish you were better? 

Wish you were closer to your goals?

Good.

I talk a lot about positivity here but let’s talk about negativity for a second.

I hate how toxic negative thoughts can be; How they can drag people down and paint their world-view with only the most depressing feelings.

It’s a shitty place to be.

But…

It’s often the starting place of good things.

 

anywhere but here!

When I first started exercising, I wanted to have bigger muscles and look better. But more than that, wayyy more than that, I wanted not to be chubby. That was my number one motivation.

Today, I exercise for the joy of it. I respect what my body and my mind are capable of. I have a lot of self compassion and I don’t beat myself up when I screw up. It took me a long time to get here and I’ve still got lots more to learn on my journey. But hey, I’m good with that.

I know that body image issues are not to be taken lightly. They’re a hindrance at best and a tragedy at worst.

But they are also an impetus for change.

Sometimes you want to change. You want to move from point A to point B and you want to do it now. But you don’t even know what point B is.

You just know it’s sure as hell not “A.” It’s anywhere BUT where you are right now.

And that’s OK.

A younger, more “huggable” Francis. I wasn’t happy to look like this.

A younger, more “huggable” Francis. I wasn’t happy to look like this.

 

no matter how you feel, just start

The cool thing about changing yourself is that you can start without all the answers. The secret to finding out more answers is to start. Today.

For me, it’s been a hell of a long journey and it isn’t stopping any time soon. I’d say it took me 10 years to realize I had body image issues and another 10 to get over them. They aren’t totally gone, either. I just know how to deal with them. What I do know it this, though:

If I’d never started. If I’d just sat and stewed in my self-loathing. If I hadn’t reached out and tried to make a change or ask for help, I never would have got here.

The moment you act and start putting one foot in front of the other, things will become more clear.

Many years and many lessons learned later. A little less fluffy but I still like to give hugs!

Many years and many lessons learned later. A little less fluffy but I still like to give hugs!

With time, patience, and a supportive community, your negativity, self-hatred, and disgust will grow into positivity, self compassion, and empathy.

Negativity isn’t a bad place to start, it’s just a bad place to stay.